I know this firsthand. I have fought against a low self-esteem my entire life. My mom remarried my adopted father who adored me and I adored him. We still do. But he suffered from self-esteem issues too, and he took it out on my Mother, my sister and me. We were all called”stupid”,”dump””idiots” for most of my teenage years. As a kid, I suffered several days on the playground by being called,”fat Matt”. Odds are you’ve had similar unfortunate experiences.
However, you have to overcome these cut downs and produce a positive self-esteem and self-image or success will always elude you. It is the confidence we rely upon to keep on keepin’ on. Unfortunately, many individuals never actually master construction or rebuilding their self-esteem. Here are some tips I have used that can help you get yours built back up.
1. It is not a curse… it is a blessing. Use the negative experiences you have faced as fuel to reconstruct your self-esteem. Deep down, those negative experiences can drive you to success if you use them correctly. Reduce the blame, and remember the times when you were beat down as strong. Prove your doubters wrong, do not let them be proven right.
2. Seek Mastery of something. When you are a master of something, it generates confidence. The important thing is to master something, anything. Learn how to hit a golf ball 400 yards. Learn to play with Billy Joel tunes on the piano. Get in tip top shape via working out. Become a top notch cold caller in your sales career. Whatever proves that you took the time to concentrate on it, skill up, and for that reason master it.
3. Do more of what you fear. Do more of what you fear most… LOTS MORE. Repetition is the mother of all skill and the more reps you can take the longer you bury the fear and move closer to mastery the better. You will need to take a great deal of swings . If you are terrified of speaking, do more speaking. Think of this like my buddy Grant Cardone suggests in his book THE 10X RULE. Do everything using a factor of 10X to it.
4. Leverage your command . Place yourself in locations and situations for your mastery to glow. If you have mastered hitting a golf ball 400 years, then sign up for the business or industry golf tournament. You know that if you arrive on the first tee box, you may hit the ball further than anyone, and others will be astounded. Therefore, your mastery will put you in a class to yourself, and people will want to be around you and encourage you to be on their staff. This will separate you one from the competition, and you will be looked at as a master. Sit in the piano when you’re having drinks with customers and begin playing Piano Man. Your clients will be impressed, and your self-esteem problem will go out the window. Invite your new date into the gym with you and let them see how many pull ups you can do and they also will be impressed. Your mastery must be used as constant fuel for one to continue to construct or rebuild your self-esteem. Getting great at something provides you the confidence to get great at anything else.
5. Help somebody else. It’s sad that all these men and women that are in a position to help whether it is a coach, a co-worker or maybe a parent, don’t take more time to recognize self-esteem problems in others. Be that individual, be the person that helps.
The topic of self-esteem is vital to your success. For some, the construction or rebuilding process can be done quickly. For others, like me, it takes a long time. But either way, nothing is worth the effort. Wildlife Control Melbourne would be happy to assist with any questions you may have.